Self Study: How Do I Find Gratitude?

Gratitude is deeply personal. The experience and felt emotion comes from within. One may find their gratitude when receiving help, assistance, kindness from others, in appreciation for recognition, when you feel pleased, experience a positive emotion, develop strong relationships with family members, friends, or other people in your community, improve your health or life circumstances, give to others, or through spiritual study. Your pathway to gratitude may follow one or more of a variety of events throughout your life.

Robert Emmons describes two parts of gratitude:

  1. An Affirmation of goodness in the world, gifts, and benefits;
  2. The sources of this goodness are outside of ourselves, and such helps us achieve goodness in our life.

As was described in my Post on February 7, 2021 (Our Gratitude Stream ), other authors and lecturers have described the “moral virtue” aspect of Gratitude. Thus, I study my childhood. What did my parents teach me? What values did they instill in me? How do I become a moral human being? What do I understand about social justice? How do I interact with, give to, serve my fellow man?

Another pathway to understanding gratitude may be through a deeper understanding of our brains. That is, what do we practice in terms of bonding with others or having empathy for others? How are we being socialized, and how are we socializing our children?

Other important questions may be linked to societal entitlements , i.e, does materialism or the need to accumulate “things” interfere with our virtues of happiness, joy, and/or gratefulness, or desire to do service for others?

Do you feel gratitude when you are out in your garden, or hiking, or being in nature?

For those of you with a philosophical bent, I offer these above questions and comments for your consideration. But more simply, others may find gratitude through their religion, or through an understanding of their own personal feelings of guilt, resentment, and indebtedness, all emotions that interfere with or get in the way of gratitude or feeling grateful.

You will soon see, I hope, that finding gratitude (versus happiness) takes work and study. It is not easy. But, it is long lasting…

The purpose of these posts is to assist you along your journey to gratitude. Enjoy…

This is #gratitudeultra. See post on February 28, 2021 for definitions of categories of gratitude.

1 thought on “Self Study: How Do I Find Gratitude?

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