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Is Gratitude Serious or Frivolous? Both

As I walked past these tables and chairs recently, I waited to be seated. I waited a long time because I am a rule follower. No one ever showed up. Finally I left!

This morning I read the update by Brett and Kate McKay “The Spiritual Disciplines: Gratitude within https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/spiritual-disciplines-gratitude/#

I recommend you take a look. It is a serious piece, but important lessons are within. For example, did you know that gratitude is the most scientifically studied? As a scientist, by my Ph.D. training, I like that fact. They also noted that gratitude is a “seasonal interest”. I think that is so sad! Further, gratitude, although familiar…. it is not mysterious as in what happens within solitude, nor is it an “inner adventure-evoking” experience as in fasting. I disagree. I believe I will find mystery and adventure during my journey through gratitude. Stay tuned.

The McKays also asked “if gratitude has been cheapened into something commonplace” as in “gratitude lite”, or is gratitude a moral virtue versus a “mood enhancer”? Further,

“What if it was made not of the soft sentimentality of greeting cards, but the sterner stuff of Stoicism, the rawness of marrow sucking, the severity of even death itself?”

I will summarize more of their article, or, even better, I suggest you take a look at the full piece, but I would like for you to consider all the wealth of thought that comes before us as we move through our own journeys through gratitude. I don’t know about you, but I am not yet ready for the “rawness of marrow sucking…” I think that today, I’ll stick to sentimentality of greeting cards….. Enjoy your day!

This is #gratitudeultra. See post on February 28, 2021 for definitions of categories of gratitude.

Self Study: How Do I Find Gratitude?

Gratitude is deeply personal. The experience and felt emotion comes from within. One may find their gratitude when receiving help, assistance, kindness from others, in appreciation for recognition, when you feel pleased, experience a positive emotion, develop strong relationships with family members, friends, or other people in your community, improve your health or life circumstances, give to others, or through spiritual study. Your pathway to gratitude may follow one or more of a variety of events throughout your life.

Robert Emmons describes two parts of gratitude:

  1. An Affirmation of goodness in the world, gifts, and benefits;
  2. The sources of this goodness are outside of ourselves, and such helps us achieve goodness in our life.
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What’s the Difference Between Joy and Happiness?

Please focus on the single beam of light projected onto the beach this morning just as day breaks (see the photo above). Out of the vast array of topics on which we might focus today, let’s focus on finding/seeking “joy” in our life which may sometimes feel like the little beam above.  Personally, I tend to like to focus on joy more than happiness because joy is a deeper emotion.

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