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Podcast Episode: Hope Joy And Healing

Pip: Gratitude Squared has been quietly doing something unusual — writing about hope, healing, and what it actually means to wait for something you can't yet see.

Mara: That's the territory today: what distinguishes hope from joy and peace, and how healing engages the soul differently than it does the body. Let's start with hope itself — what it is, where it comes from, and why it asks more of us than we might expect.

Hope, Joy, and Peace — What Sets Hope Apart

Mara: The question this segment opens with is deceptively simple: what makes hope different from joy and peace, and why does that difference matter when someone is afraid?

Pip: The post "Hope, Joy, and Peace" draws on a piece by Shauna W. to frame the answer, and the quote lands squarely: "no one hopes for what they already have. It's the time between realizing what we need, and our receiving of it, that we must confidently expect. Hope sits between."

Mara: So the upshot is that joy and peace are available now — in a sunset, a piece of music, a calm moment — but hope is structurally future-facing. It requires waiting, and that waiting is the point, not a flaw.

Pip: Which explains why the post argues that when fear is immediate, joy and peace are the tools you reach for first. Hope follows — it's the deeper current running underneath. That's not a small distinction when someone is genuinely frightened.

Mara: "Grateful for Hope" extends this by treating hope as its own kind of practice. It describes hope as positivity, optimism, possibility — and notes that it can attach to something small, like passing a test, or something deeply spiritual through prayer and meditation.

Pip: Hope is a four-letter word doing a lot of heavy lifting.

Mara: And both posts arrive at the same place: hope requires patience, but when it arrives, the post says, "hope overflows." That's the reward for the waiting. The healing segment takes that idea somewhere more urgent.

When Healing Reaches the Soul

Pip: This segment sits at the intersection of serious illness and spiritual life — specifically, the question of what medicine can and cannot promise, and where assurance actually comes from.

Mara: "How Does The Actual Healing Process Interact With the Body Versus How it Engages With the Soul?" puts it directly: "Healing outcomes when engaged through the SOUL are based on ASSURANCE, and FAITH."

Pip: That's a real distinction. Doctors, by training and by regulation, offer probabilities — "probably," "we hope," "we never know." The post documents asking for certainty and being told it isn't available. Assurance, it turns out, lives somewhere else entirely.

Mara: What makes this concrete is the moment with the hymn "Blessed Assurance" — hearing it on the radio and recognizing that the soul offers what western medicine structurally cannot. The post notes the writer asked their doctor to record this in the official medical file, and the doctor agreed.

Pip: That detail is doing a lot of quiet work. It isn't a rejection of medicine — it's a parallel track.

Mara: Exactly, and "Arousing Joyful Hope: Footbridges to Healing" makes that parallel visible in physical space. The City of Hope campus in Orange County is described as a holistic model — drumming classes, a Pacific Symphony Fourth of July event, a survivorship blue carpet walk where staff lined the walkway ringing bells and applauding patients.

Pip: The post draws a pointed comparison: Disneyland makes you happy for a day. The City of Hope keeps you joyfully alive for many.

Mara: Both posts land in the same place the hope segment did — gratitude as something practiced outward, toward others, even from inside difficulty.


Pip: Hope that waits, healing that reaches the soul — these aren't abstract ideas in this material. They're being lived.

Mara: And that's what makes them worth returning to. More from Gratitude Squared next time.

Part Seven:  Picking Hope From Your Garden Within

As you traveled through these six conversations, what question has been quietly growing within you?

  1. Can I still trust my own body?
  2. What is really happening within my body?
  3. How do I live with uncertainty?

An experienced Gardener knows:

  • Growth happens when nothing is visible.
  • Every garden has weeds.
  • It’s important to spend more time cultivating than worrying. 

This knowledge is similar in biology.

Gardeners do not expect perfection:

  • Flowers bloom and fade.
  • Branches break.
  • Bugs arrive.
  • Weeds appear overnight.

Yet every spring, gardeners begin again.

Our bodies are not so different from a garden.

  • DNA repair is pruning.
  • Immune cells are gardeners pulling weeds.
  • Stem cells are new seedlings.
  • Scars become new pathways.
  • Sleep becomes nighttime cultivation.
  • Exercise becomes tending.
  • Nutrition becomes soil.
  • Medicine becomes tools.

Our metaphors begin organizing our conversation. 

Not explaining. Organizing.

They organize the way we think. 

Once we see biology differently, we begin living differently.

Another metaphor might be a lighthouse!  Think of the beauty from the light shining in the distance, guiding you to safety, security, perhaps to your home. The lighthouse provides orientation for us. This is a remarkable vision from which we continue our discussion on hope and health.

People facing illness desperately want resolution. It may not always be possible. Orientation is.

This framework offers something more immediately attainable.

Orientation.

Knowing where you are.

Knowing what your body is attempting.

Knowing who the repair crews are, coming to help you.

Knowing that uncertainty does not mean abandonment.

That is a profound distinction.

You are probably reading this now because you are experiencing uncertainty at this time in your life.

So, I ask one favor of you. When you are finished reading, I invite you to come with me into our gardens as you continue your life. Within these six blogs we have discussed possibilities for your reflection:

The biology is important.

The science is important.

The repair crews are important.

But underneath all of these blogs in the series is my quieter message:

You don’t have to face uncertainty alone.

These conversations within will accompany you through one of the hardest experiences of your lives without pretending to have all the answers, if you are willing to walk alongside me.

Choices

There are differences between owning a garden… and loving one.

Many people stand in their garden saying,

Why aren’t you perfect?

Gardeners don’t.

They ask,

What does this plant need today?

That question changes everything.

Similarly, the body is not an enemy. Sometimes we need to ask what does my body need today?

It is entrusted to us. There are many variations but it is really a miracle and functions constantly even though you are not often aware of such. When your body has a misfire, you also may choose what you wish to do next to protect and facilitate your overall health.

Always remember that you typically  have choices in life that move you toward healing.

During my years as a rehabilitation professional, I learned that healing is rarely a straight line. Sometimes the greatest victories were measured in inches…

or one more spoken word…

or one spoon lifted independently… To someone else, it was only a spoon. 

To us, it was independence returning.

or one smile after months of discouragement.

Gardeners understand this.

Tiny growth matters. Tiny accomplishments matter.

Revisiting Biology in the New Framework

Our discussions have assisted you in considering that biology is doing what you may never have seen before.

Consider that you are now visualizing misfires, and the work by various repair crews  healing your body.  As a part of something unimaginably larger than yourself,

Wonder begins when we finally see where we are.

Not just geographically.

Biologically.

Emotionally.

Spiritually.

In the universe.

Expanding Your Choices in the Presence of Illness

I hope you are now considering the expansion of choices you might have now that you have learned more about your biology.

You, as the reader decides:

  • Will I continue living in fear?
  • Will I become more curious?
  • Will I ask different questions?
  • Will I become an active participant?

The responsibility shifts now, very naturally to you.

Humanistic Biology

The vision of biology described within this framework includes – repair crews to fix misfires, accumulation of changes, and  partnerships with medicine. Our multi-condition model of lived biology has layers:

  • Normal repair
  • Persistent misfires
  • Long-term adaptation
  • High-intensity medical intervention

Biological Misfires and Hidden Healing

As I recovered during the past decade, I remember thinking: I had no idea my body was accomplishing so much without my awareness. I purposefully began to focus on what was around me and within me. I thought about the words AWE, NOVEL, and WONDER.

I listed a few relevant statements as I recovered and continued to live:

  • Most biological misfires are repaired silently.
  • Our bodies employ remarkable repair crews every day.
  • Medicine joins and becomes an extension of the body’s own repair crew.
  • Fear is natural, but it does not have to guide our decisions.
  • You are encouraged to move away from an initial fear response to one that is more hopeful. 
  • Remember: Living is your end goal.

Discovering Hope in Your Garden Within

When I began this journey through illness, I thought I was learning about disease. Instead, I found myself learning about life.

I discovered repair crews I never knew existed.

I discovered resilience that had been quietly working long before I noticed it.

Most of all, I discovered that wonder can exist in the same place as uncertainty. That is the journey I hoped to share with you.

Listen to the message: Come With Me…

This is an invitation to continue living, your best life!

The garden is a companion image in which you have control over the flowers you plant and tend.  The choice to plant wonder is yours, just as it is in your garden, 

I hope you find peace and joy in your journey toward healing.

#gratitude ultra

Gratitude: May Be A Complex Blend Of Sorrow And Joy

Somehow I always associated gratitude with joy, happiness, and thankfulness. Yet recently, I begin to realize that one can have profound gratefulness with deep sorrow. For example, during the pandemic we honor our front line workers for their service in hospitals, but, at times, we are forced to thank them through the tears of memorial services for our loved ones we have lost. When I learned I was ill and probably would die; I was deeply grateful for the good life I had had.

Lately, I am moved by so many people helping each other and cheering when they receive the vaccine, but I feel sad for the priority established for administration of the vaccine, and for all those stories of great human beings who died before their time…

So, our message today is on this day… it will past too soon, and we do not know what tomorrow will bring. I am grateful for today, and for the humanity I see all around me!

This is #gratitudeultra. See the post on February 28, 2021 for a definition of the gratitude categories.

Precious Memories: Gratitude Is Free

My dad was a minister of a fundamentalist church so he was against dancing. He was against dancing because, during his generation, he felt it would lead to “problems” when dating, although before he became a paster he won dance contests (Charleston etc.) and was a wild guy. This photo captures the love between my parents during their twilight years in privacy. I am so happy I have this photo.

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Your Yellow Brick Road To Gratitude

Recently, I camped at the Hollywood RV Park in Los Angeles. An artist painted beautiful tributes to the Wizard of OZ throughout the park. This morning, I wonder where the yellow brick road will take you?

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Pets Give Us Joy

I always say that whenever people decided to domesticate dogs from the wolf, it was a brilliant idea! People say that “dog” is “God” spelled backwards and I believe it. Dogs are such good companions to us, our children, to the elderly, to persons in prison, individuals who are ill or are physically challenged. Pets, in general, offer such a wonderful addition to our lives, and contribute to us in many different ways.

I found it interesting to learn that approximately 76% of all households own a pet in comparison to 28% of households (married and single-parent) have children, or 85 million have pets and 35 million have children. In 2017, one (1) billion dollars was spent on private health insurance for pets. Trends in pet dogs is the expansion of the family to include dogs within our everyday activities, routines, and lifestyles.

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Nature Gives Us Joy and Renews

This morning I woke to bright sunshine. It surprised me so early in the morning as typically the sun begins to shine around 10 a.m. As my morning routine began with a glance at my computer, I found something perfect for today!

Nature Deficit Disorder

What made this phrase so perfect is because I suspect that many of you in Texas, on the East coast, and Canada are experiencing this disorder just about this time of year (February) with the tough winter you have had. The dark, gloomy, cold, chilling winter has given you all a “nature deficit disorder”.

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Empathy and Gratitude – How?

Yesterday was a beautiful day, full of sunshine, so I went to the ocean. The sunset was lovely, families were on the beach, and all seemed well. When I returned home, I flipped on the TV and watched the terrible news about the freezing crisis in Texas, the power outages, the burst water pipes, and I felt awful watching those suffering families.

I wonder how can I feel two emotions, gratitude and empathy, in a matter of moments? Is it ok to feel blessed by the weather near my home while feeling horror watching the weather just a few States away? The suffering of the children in Texas is difficult to watch against the joy of the children on the beaches in California.

Najma Khorrami, in Psychology Today, described how empathy and gratitude are linked to each other through an explanation of neuroscience.

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Valentine’s Day is Gratitude for Others

Reflecting on the typical symbols and icons on this day, I wondered why the color “red” became so meaningful and learned (with Siri’s help) that red “creates feelings of excitement and intensity”. I know those strong feelings when in love! Then, I read a little more and found that the color “red” “is also used to warn of danger and can symbolize anger or passion (calling to mind the Flames of Love)”. This statement caused me to pause….. It reminded me of my post from yesterday describing the full range of gratitude (from frivolous to serious). I kept reading…

My next question was to understand the association between the heart and valentine, and/or the heart and love. Siri was wonderfully helpful to explain the rich history of the heart and Valentine’s Day (from the shape of an ancient plant to our actual physical hearts in our chests to jewelry and more). When I read about Venus, the goddess of love, I was struck by the story of her son Cupid, whose darts set hearts on fire! Hence, I began to understand the age-old connections between Flames of Love (red) and Hearts on Fire, and a deeper meaning for this very special day began to take shape …

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Does Wearing Gratitude Make Me Look Fat?

Silly concept we begin with today, but I feel very playful this morning as I dig deeper into all the blog posts, magazines, newsletters, and books on gratitude. Mainly, I hope you are learning that to experience gratitude does not mean that your world may not be crazy around you on some days, but (instead) you are finding moments within all the terrible that are happy, precious, memorable, and meaningful in spite of all the other life’s stuff. Living in a spirit of gratitude does not mean you are serious, or dull, or out of touch with your life. Living in a spirit of gratitude will uplift you, give you joy, send you peace, and, on some days, make you want to jump with joy!

Be playful today….

Do my feathers make me look fat?

This is #gratitudezero. See post on February 28, 2021 for definitions of categories of gratitude.